Let's Chat

So I feel that I have a couple things I need to clear up after yesterdays posts. I have a million thoughts running through my head right now, so I'm going to do my best to get it all out as best I can.  :)

First off let me remind that the purpose of this blog for me is to write about the ups and downs of this journey.  I'm going to try to be as raw and honest with my feelings during this time and for many of you this is a new thing.  In the past I have not been one to express many things verbally (my hubby will attest to that), but I find writing to be a place where I'm able to get all my thoughts out where I can deal with them.  Just because I talk of it being a sad, hurtful time does not mean that I am depressed or even suicidal.  I value life above all things.  Why else would I be trying so hard to bring a little life into this world?  I know we still have many ups and downs ahead of us. We will celebrate the happy times and mourn the bad ones.  I plan to write about all of it in hopes to draw support in those times of need and in the end I hope with every fiber of my being that we can celebrate a new little life.  We have shared this blog with you all because we love you.  J & I have come to realize that this journey is bigger then we originally thought and need the support and encouragement from those that love us.

The second topic I would like to discuss is the post regarding the "5 Things Not to Say to an IVF Patient."  I came upon many lists on this topic on another blogs and it really resided with me.  It is meant to be a guide.  **It is in no way calling anyone out!**

Try putting yourself in my shoes and then read through that list.  

Better yet, here's a scenario...

{{Think back to when you were a kid and wanted a toy so bad.

You begged your parents every day for the toy.

You went to the store and dreamed of one day owning the toy.

It seemed like everywhere you went, everyone else had that toy you wanted so bad.}}

Now multiply that feeling of wanting that toy so bad by 1,000, and replace the toy with a BABY. 

So now that you can kind of relate (said loosely), you may look differently upon that list if any one of them were said to you.  I also did not want that post to be one where people are mad at me for it, or even worse, do not talk to us because they are afraid of saying the wrong thing.  It was posted to raise awareness, but shouldn't stunt conversations in the slightest.  I am obviously open to talking about anything and hold no grudges, and I hope you all can do the same.